Y’all, we take so many ideas as facts. Do any of these statements sound familiar?
“Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
“I’m not good enough to [insert your answer here.” Get the job, book the gig, reach my goals - you know that inner voice.
“College is hard.”
“I can’t find a good partner. I’ll never get a date.”
You can fill in a million more along those lines, I’m sure of it.
Now pause for a second and ask yourself this life-changing question:
Does that have to be true?
Does it have to be hard to make money? Do good partners really not exist?
Once you realize almost everything we tell ourselves is a belief, you have the power to choose to see them differently. You can rewrite your script. Try these:
“Money doesn’t grow on trees,” to “I love making money and I build abundance with ease.”
“I’m not good enough to [insert your answer here]," to "I live a life full of [your answer], and I love it.”
“College is hard," to “I love receiving education,” or “I attend school stress-free.”
“I can’t find a good partner. I’ll never get a date," to “My perfect partner is out there for me. They have X traits, Y values, and love to travel.” [Seriously, this is how I found my life partner. I wrote him down on a sheet of paper and here we are 20+ months later!]
What are your current beliefs? Remind yourself they are not facts, question them, and decide what you want to believe instead. The power is yours, babe!
I mean, of course. Nothing changes overnight. What I want you to remember is that we develop our beliefs by the ages of 7-9. That means we’ve been reinforcing and building upon these beliefs for years. We’re working to rewrite the script and heal our childhood belief systems. The key here is holding gentleness throughout the journey: I know patience can feel hard when you’re ready to make the changes, and Golden Star babe, you are doing such good work.
We so often create a vision of what could go wrong in our lives, without realizing there’s just as high a likelihood things will go right! We seek evidence that our belief systems are true. Going back to our “Beliefs are not facts” principle, if we think, “Nobody wants to be with me,” we’re going to take a swipe left on Tinder as confirmation!
Or maybe you’re in a relationship telling yourself, “This isn’t going to end well,” so you start pulling away from your partner - which brings out that undesirable outcome. We then tell ourselves, “See? I knew this would end badly.”
Remember: You have the power to choose your beliefs and shape the life of your dreams. Choose the beliefs you want to live by, give yourself permission for it to take time to build, and look for the evidence that you are successful, you are worth it, and you are enough. I promise you, it’s out there.